Being in your 20s is hard man! It’s being at the peak of your youth, sexuality and there is just this virility vibrating inside you that you try to either tame or let it consume you. But that´s the thing about being in your 20s is that you are never prepared for the kind of responsibilities or evolution that is taking place at that time, trust me I do call it evolution because it’s a more fitting description of the transformation that is taking place in your life and the struggle to seem like you have it all together and you are an actual ‘Adult’.
To me being in your 20s is much more different than being in your late teens, meaning 18 and 19 because at that point people are willing to be tolerable of your ‘childish’ behavior, they will even smile to themselves and say, ¨She is still a child.¨ When you reach your 20s you expect to start figuring things out and you plan this life to a tee, I mean nobody tells you that you will eventually get there but it won’t take five years as you thought but most probably even 10 years or more, that gradual process is an actual thing.
I mean don’t get me wrong I’m still figuring things out also and sorry to disappoint you but this is not ‘ten ways to figure out your life or how to be a millionaire in two weeks’ The thing is you just have to understand the kind of evolution that is taking place in your life and be accepting of the kind of person you are at that moment or try to make way for the new version of yourself. Your personality, character and behavior will change, I really don’t think the word mature really defines the kind of change that takes place in someone.
Ladies and gentlemen lets talk about the mental toll that happens in your 20s and these mostly sums up the things frustrating you, mental trauma and the effects of trauma on your reasoning, I mean this is the highlight of your 20s, the psychological torture that you go through of things not happening or moving faster as you would like, the deep frustration of not being able to cater to your most basic needs and the peak of it all is constantly asking yourself what to do to actually achieve the life you envision.
My point is that you have already figured who you are and what you want at this point and at this moment, that’s what matters and maybe next year you are going to realize that you do not only want to move into a nicer house but you want to actually build your own house, it’s not a matter of ‘I really don’t know what I want’ but what you want at that moment or that month and evolving slowly into realizing bigger goals. I think the problem is that most of us are so caught up in our future self that we completely ignore who we are now.
This figuring out your life thing is a slow process of you getting to know yourself and I don’t think it is something we do in our 20s only but also in our 30s, 40s, 50s and so on, it is not meant for it to be something that only happens once in a life time but something dynamic and maybe complicated.
Thank you for taking your time to read.